Develop Tact To Handle People

Monday 28 February-2011
Develop Tact To Handle People
The term ‘tact’, is related to one’s skill in understanding judging and tackling people or situations we are concerned with. This is an art by itself. Tact is more needed when we disagree with somebody or reject something. In every sphere of life we come across many moments when we have to differ with our own friends, near and dear. We find ourselves in embarrassing situations. If we fail to convey what we think or that we oppose, in a graceful manner. We provoke the feelings and hurt the delicate line of relationship.
Tactful dealing can strengthen social relationship builds up cordiality between a boss and his associates. It promotes conducive work-culture. A boss can give some endearing personal talk to his associates. For example; Enquiring about the associates; health , family etc. The personal touch’ can work wonders and make the associate happily. Moreover , this tactful dealing breathes intimacy.
Sometime people come with lot of complaints and grievances against us. If we are tactless, the situation leads to headlong confrontation. When we deal with such a situation, we need so sum up the situation and must let the aggrieved one speak out. When we do so, we have an edge over him. We gat a chance to understand the person, once the steam is let off, you try to put out your mind, and try to ease the situation. To do this one must live up the attitude. “ I am always right. Ego’ will only lead to clashes . so the secret behind tact is be frank and if necessary, tender apology. There is yet another way to deal with such a situation. As Dale Carnegie in How to win friends and influence people says, one must start talking about one’s drawbacks with out giving a chance to the other person to express them. Surely, this would make the complainant to take a generous view. The same tact can be applied in offices or an other place of work or situation.
Some people take pride in their criticism about others. They do not realize that they are presenting themselves in a poor light. No one likes to be insulted . so we try to avoid the ‘blunt’ talkers carefully to avoid unpleasant situation. It would be better for them to choose words carefully so that the delicate fabric of human relationship is well preserved.
Tactful dealing is required to have a pleasant atmosphere even on the domestic ‘front’ Neither parents nor children should resort to angry allegations. Many a time both parents and children find themselves to such a situation where the parents end up screaming at the children Instead. if the parents could adopt a patient and soft approach, the situation will have a pleasant ending. Likewise on home front, many a situation calls for tact. So tactful dealing develops understanding . it does not offence. It absorbs offences for the sake of harmonious relationships. In social personal or official life, no one can afford to be tactless.
Fencing The Young Plant
It is extremely difficult to practice spiritual discipline and at the same time lead a householder’s life.
But still thee is a way out. One should pray to God, going now and then into solitude, and make efforts to realize Him.
Whenever you have leisure, go into solitude for a day or two. At that time don’t have any relation with the outside world.
Haven’t you seen the trees on the foot-path along a street? They are fenced around as long as they are very young; otherwise cattle destroy them. But there is no longer any need of fences, when their trunks grow thick and strong. Then they won’t break even if an elephant is tied to them. Just so, there will be no need for you to worry and fear if you make your mind as strong as a thick tree-trunk. First of all try to acquire discrimination.

Quote from The Essence of the Gita
At every step in Sri Krishna’s life we can see that he possessed the highest knowledge. Even during life’s most critical moments, what remarkable steadiness and oceanic calmness he had! In any kind of situation Sir Krishna was completely unflappable, unwavering and unperturbed. We can see him in beautiful Verindaban filled with flowers and fruits. Or in Mathura, surrounded by enemies . Or in Hastinapur, adored by the royal household. Or in the battlefield, saturated with love and hatred. Or in Prnhasa, resounding with past memories.

I drive joy
There was a doctor in Benaras who spent 5 minutes in the morning and evening for mediation on God. Knowing this, his colleagues and friends laughed at him. One day they argued that he was wasting ten precious minutes on something, which he had been misled into believing. The doctor replied, “Well, if God does not exist, I agree that I am wasting ten minutes a day. But, if He exists? I am afraid you are wasting your entire lifetime. I prefer to waste ten minutes rather than a lifetime. Why should you grudge me the 10 minutes joy that I derive from? I am not robbing you of your joy; why should you rob me of mine. He asked. The critics were silenced. –Baba- Chinna Katha
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