Assertiveness

Monday, February 09, 2009
Assertiveness.
Assertiveness is a technique to improve the way you get along with people and communicate you get along with people and communicate. They may not seem important. But you understand what a big difference you have made by communicating effectively. By being assertive and communicative you become clear but not rude. You tend to listen more to others so that you understand other’s view better. Learning to be assertive requires lot of effort. One has to be patient, and more amiable to acquire it. These two traits help you break away from rude behavior patterns.
In difficult situation most people end up being aggressive. Such situation most people end up being aggressive. Such situation leaves a bitter scar on one’s mind. Sometimes , though we are assertive, we won’t get what we want. But still it gives us the satisfaction that we have stood up for our views and respected others.
What is to be done to cultivate assertiveness?
One has to be direct in stating one’s expectation clearly. This directness clears all confusions.
Your calmness and composure sometimes expose the immaturity of others and perhaps , give you upper hand to handle a situation tactfully.
In order to be assertive, one need not necessarily be rude or bossy but one can still be assertive with polite but firm voice.
Little drops of Water
Little drops of water, little grains of sand.
Make the mighty ocean and the pleasant land.
So the little minutes, humble though they be.
Make the mighty ages of eternity.
It is wisdom
It is wisdom to leave that which has not arrived and to attend to that which is on hand with such concentration of effort as shall leave no loopholes for regret to creep in.
Investment in knowledge
If a man empties his purse into his head. No man can take it away from him. An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest.
What is Fearlessness
Fearlessness should connote absence of all kinds of fear- fear of death, fear of bodily injury. Fear of hunger, fear of insult, fear of ghosts and evil spirits, fear of anyone’s anger . Freedom from all these and other such fears constitutes fearlessness.
Only flowers of Good Deeds
Only flowers of Good Deeds.
Blossoming through pure thoughts.
On the branch of true knowledge.
Emerging from the strong tree of faith.
Born from seeds of truth.
Sown with devotion and watered by purity.
Threaded together with the string of love
Is the fit garland for our beloved.
Friendship
Friendship appears to be a unique from of human bonding. Unlike marriage or the ties that bind parents and children, it is not defined or regulated by law. In enhances the feelings of warmth , trust , love and affection between two people.
When man casts me down
When man casts me down
God holds me up.
Seek thou not human aid
If thou wouldst be sustained by they Lord.

Samrat is a 24 yr old HR professional. On a regular day he 10 am and logs in, going into various online communities and chat-rooms. He leaves office around 6:30pm and logs in as soon as he reaches home. He is online almost as long as he is awake. Samrat is only one of the numerous people who live more in the virtual world than in the real one around them Samrat knows that.” Life is hectic and it’s very difficult for me to visit and call up my friends on a regular basis. It is far easier to keep in touch with them on line, since most them are on line too. But it is true that the virtual world is becoming very real for us. We are moving away from the world around us.” he says
I drive joy
There was a doctor in Benaras who spent 5 minutes in the morning and evening for mediation on God. Knowing this, his colleagues and friends laughed at him. One day they argued that he was wasting ten precious minutes on something, which he had been misled into believing. The doctor replied, “Well, if God does not exist, I agree that I am wasting ten minutes a day. But, if He exists? I am afraid you are wasting your entire lifetime. I prefer to waste ten minutes rather than a lifetime. Why should you grudge me the ten minutes joy that I derive from? I am not robbing you of your joy; why should you rob me of mine. He asked. The critics were silenced. –Baba- Chinna Katha

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