silence

Monday, October 27, 2008
Assertiveness
Assertiveness is a technique to improve the way you get along with people and communicate. They may not seem important. But you would be surprised when you understand what a big difference you have made by communicating effectively. By being assertive and communicative you become clear but not rude. You tend to listen more to others so that you understand others’ view better. Learning to be assertive requires lot of effort. One has to be patient, and more amiable to acquire it. These two traits help you break away from rude behavior patterns.
In difficult situation most people end up being aggressive. Such situation leaves a bitter scar on one’s mind. Sometimes, though we are assertive, we won’t get what we want. But still it gives us the satisfaction that we have stood up for our views and respected others.
What is to be done to cultivate assertiveness?
One has to be direct in stating one’s expectation clearly. This directness cleans all confusions.
Your calmness and composure sometimes expose the immaturity of others and perhaps, give you upper hand to handle a situation tactfully.
In order to be assertive, one need not necessarily be rude or bossy but one can still be assertive with polite with polite but firm voice.
A lamp can never Light
A teacher can never truly teach unless he is still leaning himself. A lamp can never light another unless it continues to burn its own flame.

It is only when we are not mentally disturbed that we can always do the right thing at the right at the right time in the right way.

Little Drops of Water
Little drops of water, little grains of sand,
Make the mighty ocean and the pleasant land,
So the little minutes, humble though they be
Make the mighty ages of eternity.
Life
Life spent with someone for a lifetime may be meaningless, but a few moments spent with someone who really loves and cares for you more than life itself.
It is Wisdom
It is wisdom to leave that which has not arrived, and to attend to that which is on hand with such concentration of effort as shall leave no loophole for regret to creep in.
Teacher! The role model
I don’t care for praise or blame
I try my best without caring for gain.
I take it as a challenge
To serve my friends
I want them all of to be
Wonderful gems.
I prepare my notes
With lost of pain
To give something new
Is always my aim.

Silence is Yoga
Talking is to fool is gossip
Talking to a Sadhu is satsang.
Talking to a friend is chat
Talking to a boss is communication
Talking to a student is teaching
Talking to a voter is canvassing
Talking to the depressed is counseling.
Talking to an enemy is anger
Talking to oneself is brooding
Talking to God is prayer
Talking to none is silence
And silence is Yoga


Samrat is a 26 yr old HR professional. On a regular day he 10 am and logs in, going into various online communities and chat-rooms. He leaves office around 6:30pm and logs in as soon as he reaches home. He is online almost as long as he is awake. Samrat is only one of the numerous people who live more in the virtual world than in the real one around them Samrat knows that.” Life is hectic and it’s very difficult for me to visit and call up my friends on a regular basis. It is far easier to keep in touch with them on line, since most them are on line too. But it is true that the virtual world is becoming very real for us. We are moving away from the world around us.” he says
I drive joy
There was a doctor in Benaras who spent 5 minutes in the morning and evening for mediation on God. Knowing this, his colleagues and friends laughed at him. One day they argued that he was wasting ten precious minutes on something, which he had been misled into believing. The doctor replied, “Well, if God does not exist, I agree that I am wasting ten minutes a day. But, if He exists? I am afraid you are wasting your entire lifetime. I prefer to waste ten minutes rather than a lifetime. Why should you grudge me the ten minutes joy that I derive from? I am not robbing you of your joy; why should you rob me of mine. He asked. The critics were silenced. –Baba- Chinna Katha

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