How to maintain harmony in a Joint Family?

 

Monday, 12 November 2012

How to maintain harmony in a Joint Family?

We are living in a world where disagreements are increasing day by day. The joint family system is becoming non-existent. If we try and live in accordance with the following code of behaviour, we could live in harmony and peace, not only within the family but with everyone outside.

Try not to find fault with others . Ignore minor faults completely. When it is necessary to point out major faults, do so lovingly, without hurting the other party. In case of difference of opinion, have a free and frank discussion immediately. Otherwise, differences will grow more and more, mutual love will be eroded, and the stored up differences will explode one day. Talking over the matter then and there , in a friendly spirit, would prevent such extreme situations.

Be ready to sacrifice personal like and dislikes for the sake of others. There will then be no room for differences to arise and consequently peace will prevail. Let us not lift an accusing finger at others. Remember “Who is to blame is not important, only how shall we set the situation right. “

Serve everybody, instead of serving oneself. This will gradually help  removing our ego, our individuality. When this happens our little specific wants, our likes and dislikes (areas of differences in a joint family) will be reduced. Our “wants “ merge with those of others. We become one and there is total peace and harmony.

We should understand that there are different types of people with different styles of actins. If one person is very stubborn, the other should surrender and then later talk to him lovingly about it. If one is continuously stubborn, then part lovingly. If you feel some one is prejudiced against you, you should have love for that person. One day he will understand you and everything will become peaceful and blissful.

Finally , remember that the common  aim is realisation of God and one should work for ti. (Courtesy; “The Vision”)

True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is not known until it is lost.”

Story of Colours

Our world would be a very dull place if there were no colours in it. We see colours everywhere in Nature-in the flowers, rivers, clouds, vegetables, mountains and even the sky. Man has taken the message from Nature and he too has introduced colour in all the things he has made. After all colour is one of the basic ways of identifying things.

But have we ever thought and wondered about what colours are? As most of us are aware, red, yellow and blue are the only primary colours all others colours are a mixture and combination of these three colours. The colours that we make form the primary colours are called secondary colours. If we mix up all the colour we would end up getting a muddy brown colour!

At school , we are aware of only poster colour and water colour but there are many more colours in the market for the professional artists . how these colour are made? Paints are made from powders containing pigments which is the colour, and a substance to make the pigments stick together called a binder. Different types of colours have different types of binders.

Oil paints is a mixture of a pigment and an oil binder. The oil colours do not fade and do not wash off. However they crack if they are not blended properly . acrylic paint is a waterproof and a fast drying medium. It is pigment mixed with a chemical binder. Watercolour and gouache are made from a pigment and a gum binder. Watercolour and gouache are made from a pigment and a gum binder. Gouache has also a white pigment in it the poster colours that we use from the bottles are really gouache.

Apart from these there are oil crayons and pastels. Many artists use soft pastels for drawing but they must be sprayed with a fixative . otherwise they would get solid with spots or stains.

Now –a-days oil colour are even available as oil bares/sticks. It has become very easy for the artist to paint as the does not have to mix the colours and clean the board.

Quote from the True Charm and power of Vedanta

The Vedanta preaches the ideal; and the ideal, as we know, is always far ahead of the real, of the practical, as we may call it. There are two tendencies in human nature; one to harmonise the ideal with the life, and the other to elevate the life to the ideal. It is a great thing to understand this , of the former tendency is the temptation of our life. I think that I can only do a certain ideals of work, most of it, perhaps, is bad; most of it, perhaps, has a motive power of passion behind it, anger, or greed, or selfishness. Now if any man comes to preach to me a certain ideal, the first step towards which is to give up selfishness, to give up self-enjoyment, I think that is impractical. But when a man brings an ideal which can be reconciled with my selfishness, I am glad at once, and jump at it. That is the ideal for me. As the word ‘orthodox’ has been manipulated into versus forms, so has been the word ‘practical’. My doxy is orthodoxy; your doxy is heterodoxy’ . so with practicality. What I think is practical, is to me the only practicality in the world.

But, if He exists?

I drive joy There was a doctor in Benaras who spent 7 minutes in the morning and evening for mediation on God. Knowing this, his colleagues and friends laughed at him. One day they argued that he was wasting ten precious minutes on something, which he had been misled into believing. The doctor replied, “Well, if God does not exist, I agree that I am wasting ten minutes a day. But, if He exists? I am afraid you are wasting your entire lifetime. I prefer to waste ten minutes rather than a lifetime. Why should you grudge me the 10 minutes joy that I derive 4m.

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