How to make a right decision

Monday, 11-June- 2012

How to make a right decision

Even when a decision is important try not to exaggerate the importance. When we do this we become nervous and undermine our ability to think clearly.

Be sure that what you decide is really what you liked, not what  somebody close to you wants you to do or what others expect you to do your decision should be what you believe to be the best.

Try to avoid deciding in a hurry or on the impulse of the moment. Snap decisions make us feel important. But often snap decisions are later regretted.

What  may be all right in the short term can, in the long term may prove to be wrong.

For instance you are closely involved with somebody who is selfish and domineering . for the sake of peace and quiet you may have decided to allow him to have his own way. In the short term this works. But as time goes on and as it affects the rest of your life, you are likely to become increasingly unhappy about it.

When several issues are involved,  it is easy to become confused.  Try  wiring them down and considering each separately. List the pros and cons under separate headings and analyse until you finally decide. It also helps to discuss a decision with somebody sensible and trustworthy who is not personally involved.

How to win a friend.

Much has been written about the art of making friends but the secret of success can be reduced to the five simple but profound words. “Love they friend as themself.

They are the powerful keys which will open for us the door to happiness and harmony in our relation without friends.

In these five words two important truths are told. The first is that the way to win a friend is to love him. The second is that the way to love him is to do for him what you like him to do for you.

Thus the secret of the art of friendship is the treatment you world like to receive from a friend and then to set about  treating a friend in the same way. Think of the ways in which your friend has given you happiness and you will know how you can give happiness to a person and win his friendship ad affection. Any action on your part to express your desire for your friend’s company will meet the need to be wanted and loved and so it will strengthen and enrich your friendship.

An invitation to another simply to join you in a walk a cup of tea or for a chat can be  of great value. Because it shows a desire for the other’s company for its own sake rather than for any material gain.

If you cannot see a friend for sometime; write or telephone . Send a birthday greeting card and show that you think of him on his/her birthday.

Watch for opportunities to telephone or write your good wishes to your friend, such as when he is not well, which he is going on holiday or when he is taking up a new enterprise.

Even the most talented and self confident person suffer from inferiority feelings and is in need of encouragement from his friends. Help a friend to attain the highest of which he is capable and of which he himself may not be aware.

Turn your attention away from your friend’s faults and concentrate on finding more of the merits Loyalty is an essential quality of friendship and without it, there can be no trust between two friends.

If you see a fault in your friend be sure to speak on the subject to your friend himself and not behind his back to another

Try to make a friend feel wanted, loved and valued by you. You will thus score high in your social life and win new friends wherever you go and will win always greater affection and respect from your friends.

 

Quotes from  the true charm and power of Vedanta.

The “DHAMAMMAPADA” OR PATH TO VIRTUE.

All that we are is the result of what we have thought; it is founded on our thoughts, it is made up of our thoughts. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him as the wheel follows the foot of the ox that draws the carriage.

All that we are is the result of what we have thought. It is founded on our thoughts; it is founded on our thoughts, it is made up of our thoughts. If a man speaks or acts with pure thought, happiness follows him like a shadow that never leaves him.

The virtuous delights in this world , and he delights in the nest; he delights in both. He delights and rejoices when he sees the purity of his own work.

Earnestness is the part of immortality , thoughtlessness the path of death, Those who are in earnest do not die; those who are thoughtless are as if dead already.

Having understood this clearly, those who are advanced in earnestness, delight in earnestness and rejoice in knowledge of the elect.

If an earnest person has roused himself, if he is not forgetful, if his deeds are pure, if he act with consideration, if he restrains himself, and lives according to law-then his glory will increase.

By rousing himself , by earnestness , by restraint and control , the wise man may make for himself and island which no flood can overwhelm.

These wise people , meditative , steady, always possessed of strong powers, attain to Nirvana, the highest happiness.

If you see a an who shows you what is to be avoided, who administers re proofs, and is intelligent follow that wise man as you would one who tells of hidden treasures; it will be better , not worse for him who follows him.

Straw eaten by cows turns into milk, while milk drunk by serpents turns into poison.

 

But, if He exists?

I drive joy There was a doctor in Benaras who spent 7 minutes in the morning and evening for mediation on God. Knowing this, his colleagues and friends laughed at him. One day they argued that he was wasting ten precious minutes on something, which he had been misled into believing. The doctor replied, “Well, if God does not exist, I agree that I am wasting ten minutes a day. But, if He exists? I am afraid you are wasting your entire lifetime. I prefer to waste ten minutes rather than a lifetime. Why should you grudge me the 10 minutes joy that I derive 4m.

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