Love and Desire

Monday, October 10, 2011
Love and Desire
Many of us, as adults, do all sorts of things to gain acceptance, approval and love from our parents and other loved ones. In many cases, our efforts go unnoticed or unrewarded. No matter what we do, it's not good enough. No matter what we do, we receive criticism and harsh judgment. No matter what we do, we don't get the same attention and consideration that is shown to others.
The end result is our feeling bad about ourselves. We feel unloved and unlovable. We feel defective and inadequate. We feel rejected and abandoned. It's very painful.
Despite this pain that we cause ourselves by repeatedly putting ourselves in these no-win situations, hoping against hope that somehow something will change, we continue the love-seeking and approval-seeking behaviors that get us nowhere.
When we try to communicate our needs and generate a dialogue in an attempt to learn if there's something we're doing that's getting in the way or pushing them away, these efforts fall on deaf ears. We don't get honest answers. We are left feeling confused, hurt and angry.
And still we seek their love and believe there's an emptiness inside of us that only their love can fill.
Truth be told, we will never feel whole if we are waiting for approval and love from others. We must learn to love ourselves despite how others perceive us and treat us.
One way to begin the process of loving ourselves is to stop victimizing ourselves and beating ourselves up by repeatedly putting ourselves in situations where we get rejected and hurt.
If we have made efforts to break through whatever walls have been put up, and these efforts continue to be ignored, unappreciated, and invalidated, at some point we need to stop making these efforts and accept the fact that we're most likely never going to get the love and approval we desire.
At some point we need to accept the fact that we can't squeeze blood from a stone. At some point we need to appreciate that it's okay to want love from others but not to need it, and that we shouldn't jump through hoops in attempts to get it.
At some point we need to respect ourselves, validate ourselves, nurture ourselves and love ourselves by discontinuing these desperate attempts to achieve the impossible.
Instead, we mourn the relationships that haven't lived up to the potentials we hoped for. We feel sad that we don't have the love that we would like from those relationships. But we don't minimize ourselves anymore. We don't put ourselves in situations that will lead to us feeling neglected and rejected. We stop trying to push the river where it doesn't want to go.
We accept the relationships as they are, with their limitations. We release any anger and resentments we are harboring. We feel good about ourselves for taking care of ourselves, for not living in denial, for not doing the same things and expecting different results. And we look elsewhere for acceptance and love if that is what we desire.
Quote from Bhagavad-Gita Gita
Beliefs and facts of Hinduism.
Hinduism is for those who want to:
• Follow the real proven religion of Peace
• Follow an eternal religion founded by God himself and not a man
• Follow a religion with unlimited Prophets of God and not just one
• Follow scriptures spoken and written down by God himself in person
• Follow a religion that has existed for millions of years and not just a few thousand
• Follow the original religion of man
• Stop killing all together (vegetarianism)
• Know and love God as a person, rather than just a name
• Know exactly who the person God is. His description, history, scheduled incarnations and so on
• Consider all living beings including the animals as brothers and sisters
• Believe that God created all living beings and thus we are all his sons and daughters
• Know when exactly is the Day of Judgment
• Know exactly why some are born poor/diseased/rich and so on
• Follow scientifically proven ideologies (Vegetarianism, Karma, Reincarnation, Yoga…)
• Know all the answers and no speculation
Hinduism is the oldest religion in the world, dating back to millions of years.
Hinduism is the most peace-loving Religion of all. This can be proven by the fact that Hindustan (The Land of the Hindus) or India has never attacked or invaded another nation. The Hindus have never stolen land belonging to others. The Hindus have never used force to convert others. The Hindus have never treated other humans as slaves. The other religions certainly cannot say the same.
The Hindus have the richest culture of all.
The Hindu scriptures are the oldest known to man. There main scripture of Hinduism is the The Bhagavad-Gita. The Bhagavad-Gita is the only word of God in Person. It is the conversation between a man called Arjun and God himself in the human form, Lord Krishna.
Hinduism preaches that there is only ONE god, who has many different manifestations. Hinduism is the only religion based on following a God who was actually seen by millions of people in the past and who will be seen again by millions in the future. God appeared as Lord Ram about 2 million years ago, as Lord Krishna 5000 years, as Lord Buddha 2500 years ago, and will appear again as Lord Kalki in 427,000 years time.
Hinduism is the only religion, which clearly states that there is life on other Planets, and actually gives description of life and the names of other Planets with living beings. This information can be found in the Shrimad Bhagavatam.

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There was a doctor in Benaras who spent 5 minutes in the morning and evening for mediation on God. Knowing this, his colleagues and friends laughed at him. One day they argued that he was wasting ten precious minutes on something, which he had been misled into believing. The doctor replied, “Well, if God does not exist, I agree that I am wasting ten minutes a day. But, if He exists? I am afraid you are wasting your entire lifetime. I prefer to waste ten minutes rather than a lifetime. Why should you grudge me the 10 minutes joy that I derive from? I am not robbing you of your joy; why should you rob me of mine. He asked. The critics were silenced. –Baba- Chinna Katha
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