Monday, 26 September 2016
The Turbulent Teen Years
Growing up
is never easy particularly when high-spirited young people reach the age of twelve
or thirteen years. Up till this point someone else has always made most the
decisions for them. But suddenly the whole situation changes, for these are the
years when boys and girls begin to grow rapidly, gaining strength in bone,
muscle, and sinew. This is also the time when their minds are beginning to
expand rapidly, and each becomes an individual in his own right. Now they begin
to put away childish things and become grown-up but such a transition is never
simple
Such striking
changes always raise serious problems, for parents and teen-ages alike are
often confused and uncertain about what to do. The young person feels quite
able to handle thins for himself, and yet most of the time he longs
instinctively for the protection of home and he guidance of older, and wiser minds.
At the same time he does not want to show such ‘weakness’ so he begins to boast
loudly, and often becomes defiant and unreasonable , especially towards older members
of his own family. Parents must not be too distressed about this, for he is
only trying to move out into the adult world for himself. In spite of his
attitude he really knows he is really not ready for adult life.
Expect some mistakes!
As far as possible,
all young people must be allowed to make their decisions . Naturally they will
make some mistakes, just as their parents did. This is how they learn to be
self-reliant as adults. However, parents must set sensible rules for them to
follow, otherwise they may never learn to live in the adult world. At the same
time it is equally important for each young person to be accepted by his own
age group.
The young
person should not act as if there were no rules of conduct in the world. It is
the responsibility of the parents to make sensible rules to guide the teen-ager
as he grows up. At the same time he must retain his own individuality. He must
now be treated as an equal and not ordered around as a small child. Under this friendly
guidance and counsel, he will soon be willing to accept reasonable suggestions,
provided his parents are wise enough to solve his problems as a mature young
adult. Courtesy wisdom
Bad laws are the worst sort of
tyranny
Quote from the true charm and
power of Vedanta
The Monistic approach its
conditions
There are ordinarily tow type of spiritual
aspirants. The majority worship God as the supreme Being endowed with from. They
want to enter into a personal relationship with Him as Master, Father, Mother, Friend
or Beloved, or to e establish a personal impersonal connection with Him as the
Infinite. Whole and the Soul of souls. Aspirants of the second type, want to
realize the divine Principle as their very Self or as the One without a second.
Unable to adopt the discipline directly leading to this realization, even most
of the seekers of this group have to follow the graduated course of dualism,
qualified monism and monism . Distinct from these there are some rare and
highly qualified aspirants in whom moral perfection freedom from desires and
the spirit of detachment have reached a high standard of development. They resolutely
follow the direct path to the Absolute, transcending subject –object relationships
of all kinds.
The devotees who worship God endowed
with from pursue the objective method God is the external object of their
worship and adoration, with whom they want to untie their souls. The out and
out monistic aspirants, on the other hand follows form the very beginning the
subjective form of spiritual practice in which the object of meditation is no
other than his own true Self which is infinite and absolute by nature. He usually
mediates on the monistic maxim, “I am Brahman” or “Thou art That” . By means of
this he tries to expand his limited consciousness to Infinite and Absolute Consciousness
or Super-consciousness, rising above all limitations, physical and metal. At first
he takes the help of the dualism of subject and object inseparable from
relative existence, though in this he stresses the subject or Self more than
the object. And finally, he attains that which transcends all duality and relatively,
all conceptions of the knower, known and knowledge in the words of Sri Ramakrishna,
he is like a salt doll dissolved in the ocean. Courtesy essential of spiritual life
But, if He exists?
I drive joy
There was a doctor in Benaras who spent 7 minutes in the morning and evening
for mediation on God. Knowing this, his colleagues and friends laughed at him.
One day they argued that he was wasting ten precious minutes on something,
which he had been misled into believing. The doctor replied, “Well, if God does
not exist, I agree that I am wasting ten minutes a day. But, if He exists? I am
afraid you are wasting your entire lifetime. I prefer to waste ten minutes
rather than a lifetime. Why should you grudge me the 10 minutes joy that I
derive 4m.
