How To Overcome Feeling of Inferiority?

Monday, December 07, 2015

How To Overcome Feeling of Inferiority?

There is an essential element in human lie, without which we cannot face the world successfully. That element is self respect.

With self respect you can conquer the world. Without it you are defeated. It should be your firm belief that you are worthy to yourself and to your community.

If you suffer from feeling of inferiority , understand how the feeling has come about, why it persists in your life and take practical steps to be free from such feeling.

A person felt bad in the presence of other people. When it is analyzed it was fond that as a young boy he had a humiliating experience at a party. Later he tired to forget about it. But the experience had stayed with him.

A great deal of inferiority feeling is an expression of earlier humiliation. A small girl was sure of her mother’s affection. The one ambition of her infant life was to be accepted and loved by her mother. To her surprise a brother was born. She developed the feeling that her mother loved the baby but does not love her. And so inferiority feeling troubled her.

What does a child do when in his search for satisfaction finds himself  humiliated? He turns the energies that would normally go into fulfillment and happiness and employs them n his rebellion.

As he cannot find fulfillment in acceptance and love secretly he becomes the enemy of those who seem to “trouble” him and in rebellion, he gets a kind of satisfaction.

As he cannot get his joy out of being admired, he will suffer until his heart suffers with pain. This practice becomes habit forming. You must break this pattern of life at all costs.

As a child, you felt yourself rejected and therefore felt worthless. This was you first mistake. It is the first error you must rectify.

Now repeatedly, you must tell yourself you are wanted and loved you must break the feeling of humiliation and revenge by understating its origin and by giving up the habit that rooted itself in your life.

You must create a new pattern of life. You cannot do it in a day. Constantly the old pattern of worthlessness will try to assert itself again. But you must tontine to try and overcome such feeling.

Tell yourself that you are as good as anyone else .insist on happiness and fulfillment. Build a new habit of thought and experience. Develop feeling of hope, optimism ad happiness. Start every day by strengthening your determination.

Make sure what your real desires are. Do your really want happiness. Affection and success? Work this out every morning before you start the day, Once you have the right burring desire coupled with determination, the way to freedoms is in your hands.  

Believe in yourself. Increase your self respect and appreciate your value . Know you are wanted and loved. Start life afresh knowing that the new satisfaction of love and acceptance are richer in reward. Courtesy wisdom

Quote from the True Charm and Power of Vedanta

We should pray for the welfare of all. We should behave in such a manner that no one’s feelings are hurt and no harm is caused to anyone. We must not do anything by which anyone is hurt physically or mentally or whereby evil befalls anyone. The scriptures speak of Ahimsa or non injury. It not only implies not hurting physically or mentally anyone it also means not to think ill of others or harm others. This must be practiced in thought, word and deed.

We must hold on to truth always in such a way that under no circumstance should we deviate from it. We should never have recourse to falsehood. We must honour our commitments. Sri Ramakrishna used to say, One who holds on to truth rests in the lap of God” He further says. “Truth fullness is the austerity for Kaliyuga” I am not saying that it is easy to tick to truth. It is to at al easy. We will have to make a lot of sacrifice in life to observe truthfulness. Hence, it is never an easy job. But we should not forget that holding on to truth is our ideal courtesy spiritual imitation

But, if He exists? 

I drive joy There was a doctor in Benaras who spent 7 minutes in the morning and evening for mediation on God. Knowing this, his colleagues and friends laughed at him. One day they argued that he was wasting ten precious minutes on something, which he had been misled into believing. The doctor replied, “Well, if God does not exist, I agree that I am wasting ten minutes a day. But, if He exists? I am afraid you are wasting your entire lifetime. I prefer to waste ten minutes rather than a lifetime. Why should you grudge me the 10 minutes joy that I derive 4m.

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