Monday, 15 September 2014
Approachability
Being at ease with ourselves helps others be at ease with us. We can
give no greater gift to others than putting them at ease.
The above saying reflect the approachability principle you put
yourselves questions, such as ; Have I ever met anyone famous ? What was it
like? Was it exciting to me or did it turn out to be surprisingly ordinary? Was
disappointed then, or w2as it even better than I expected? Did I connect with
the person, or was I treated like a nuisance? Or was I so intimidated that I
was unable to even try to talk to the person? The quality of any first time
meeting experience –whether or not people are famous-depends largely on their
approachability.
For that matter, what about you? Can the people closest to your talk to
you about nearly anything? When was the last time someone brought you bad news?
Or strongly disagreed with your point of view on an issue? Or confronted you
concerning something you did wrong? It has been a while , you may not be a very
approachable person
Some people treat the idea of becoming approachable as frivolous; it’s a
nice thing if one can be bothered to cultivate it. But truly it’s much more than
that, it is powerful asset to have in
one’s relational toolbox.
How to put people at
ease.
To be approachable. it is not enough to love people in theory . the need is
to generate personal warmth towards the people you meet. As Christian Bovee
said. “Kindness is a language the dumb can speak and the deaf can hear and
understand” You must be able to appreciate people for who they are and what
they have to offer . appreciating the differences of others can do the same for you
Approachable people display a consistency of mood. They are even-keeled
and predictable. You know what you’re going to get because they are basically
the same every time you see them. Although , approachable people are
emotionally steady that does not men they expect others to be that way.
Consequently, they tune in to the moods and feelings of others. And they fast
adjust how they relate to others.
Approachable people are honest about their abilities and shortcomings.
They are wiling to be told not what they want to hear but what they need to
hear. They are also able to forgive easily and fast ask for forgiveness. It
makes people humble and authentic . so make yourself approachable.
Quote from the True
Charm and Power of Vedanta
‘We see as human
being, that all our knowledge which is called rational is referred to
consciousness….. At the same time, there is a very great part of my existence
of which I am not conscious….When the food is manufactured into blood, it is
done unconsciously; when out of the
blood all the different part of my body are strengthened, it is done
unconsciously . and yet it is I who am doing all this ..How do I know that I do
it, and nobody else?.....because it can be demonstrated that almost every
action of which we are now unconscious can be brought up t the plane of
consciousness…..What does this show? That the function which are beneath
consciousness are also performed by us only we are doing it unconsciously
‘We have , then tow
planes in which the human mind works . First is the conscious plane, in which all
work is always accompanied with the feeling of egoism. Next comes the
unconscious plane, where al work is unaccompanied by the feeling of
egoism…
“There is a still
higher plane upon which the mind can work. It can go beyond consciousness.
Justas unconscious work is beneath consciousness, so there is another work
which is above consciousness , and which is also not accompanied with the
feeling of egoism
“The field of reason
, or of the conscious workings of the mind, is narrow and limited. There is a
little circle within which human reason must move. It cannot go beyond . Every
attempt to go beyond is impossible; yet it is beyond this circle of reason that
there lies all the humanity holds most dear. All these questions, whether there
is an immortal soul, whether there is a God, whether there is any supreme
intelligence guiding this universe or not, are beyond the field of reason. Reason
can never answers this questions. What does reason say? It says, “I am an
agnostic. I do not know either yea or nay. “ Yet these questions are so
important to us. Without proper answer to them, human life would be
purposeless. All our ethical theories , all our moral attitudes all that is
good and great in human nature have been moulded upon answers that have come
from beyond that circle it is very
important therefore, that we should have answers to these questions. If life is
only a short play, if the universe is only a “fortuitous combination of atoms’,
then why should I do good to others? Why should there is be mercy, justice, or
fellow feeling? The best thing for this world would be to make hay while the
sun shines, each man for him self…
To get reason out of
the mass of incongruity we call human life, we have to transcend our reason;
but we must do it scientifically, slowly, by regular practice; and we must cast
of all superstition.
IF HE EXIST
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