How to Overcome Inferiority Feelings

Monday, 12^th August 2013     

How to Overcome Inferiority Feelings

“Why do I always make such mistakes? If only I had better education,    I would not have made such mistakes” comments like these tell us much about the poor opinion people have of themselves.

Occasionally becoming depressed at one’s shortcomings is normal. But many people feel inferior for too long a time and they go through life with a feeling of worthlessness that spoils their happiness.     

A poor opinion of oneself shows in all kinds of subtle ways! A man will work long hours at the office expecting his boss to think of him as worthwhile.

Our a woman will ask how to keep her hair stylish and whether she ought to war a mini or a pantsuit. She is more anxious to please others than herself.     

Why do we have such poor opinions of ourselves?  Our opinions of ourselves? Our feelings give the answer . when you do something you don’t approve of you feel bad and have a poor opinion of yourself 

Or a girl waits humiliatingly long time for a man who makes a habit of being late. Then covers up her rage and smiles sweetly when he finally arrives-and despises herself afterwards. 

If you  are behaving in a way you approve of you will feel glad . you will have a glow of well-being and you will like yourself.

Some are perfectionists . they need to score 100 percent all the time. I should do everything right is their subconscious thought , so whenever they fall short of their standards. They judge themselves too harshly.    

They should try to for amore realistic attitude that is to be gentle towards themselves.

Anyone with such unrealistically high standards has a false idea of what a normal human being really is.

Still other people get a poor opinion of themselves by accepting the standards of those around them.

Accept yourself as different and as a genuine individual. You are unique in your own way.

The first step to get rid of inferiority feelings is to realise that you are no longer a child but a grown up person who has your own abilities and merits.     

Self study is the second important step for detecting what is wrong. Becoming acquainted with oneself involves taking a pencil and paper  whenever you are

Overcome by a feeling of worthlessness and writing down whatever comes to mind.   

Let the pencil freely write what you feel. It appears trivial, irrational embarrassing.

Then put away the paper and days of weeks later, look at what you have written to. See what is improved. The things that appeared meaningless become clear.

Once you become conscious of making self-deprecating comments like these and consciously stop them, your opinion of yourself increases. A better habit is to emphasise your triumphs.  Rather than your defeats.

When you do get a better opinion of yourself, everything improves . you feel more confident and self-assured. You gain true self-esteem and the right perspective.

The new self-respect and self-confidence frees you to find your own assets and abilities . and people treat you better, like you better, respect you more because you are happy with yourself and have learnt to respect yourself.      

Qoute from the True Charm and power of Vedanta

He is the Lord of all , and all objects are His manifestations. He is the one agent in the universe working through every thing.   He is the should of all as well as the power residing in them. He is the first cause that explains every finite cause . To all He is common and to Him alone is due the worship of every noble heart. Realizing Him who is declared as Vasudeva or the Omnipresent . Divinity-one becomes immortal and divine It is absolute , the most high.

The supreme is not attained because of our indulgence in sense enjoyment, because of our rankling doubt regarding the real, doubt regarding the real, and because of our mind. Being preoccupied with other objects, With an absolutely refined mind we can know Him, but we cannot reduce that realisation into language; for the Mind has to be cognized with the mind, and seer by the sight(i.e self –cognition being unique, the experience it yields cannot be described like ordinary objective cognitons) He is the imperishable one, is reached by purifying.

                                             

 

 

 

But, if He exists?

I drive joy There was a doctor in Benaras who spent 7 minutes in the morning and evening for mediation on God. Knowing this, his colleagues and friends laughed at him. One day they argued that he was wasting ten precious minutes on something, which he had been misled into believing. The doctor replied, “Well, if God does not exist, I agree that I am wasting ten minutes a day. But, if He exists? I am afraid you are wasting your entire lifetime. I prefer to waste ten minutes rather than a lifetime. Why should you grudge me the 10 minutes joy that I derive 4m.

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