Acquire Emotional Intelligence

Monday 8 –May- 2010
Acquire Emotional Intelligence
All of us fight or argue with our brothers, sisters, friends, parents and life partners too. We may find ourselves in a similar situation at our place of work. Sometimes such an embarrassing situation is intentional, and sometimes unintentional . However controlled we are, everyone’s emotions go hay wire from time to time and force us to behave in undesirable ways. But we can actually train our brain to keep our emotions at bay. What we need is a boost in our emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) It helps us measure our ability to identify, assess, and mange our emotions as well as others’. If we are able to achieve it, we can understand ourselves better and care for ourselves and enjoy happier and healthier relationships, Most of the time we lay the blame at someone else’s door; instead, we should try to re-align our feelings and emotions. This would certainly boost our feel-good quotient.
When we accost people, we frequently ask questions out of habit without really caring about the answer. As we speed by people we ask questions such as “How are you?” ”How is it going?” etc. We wont even wait or pause a moment for an answer. Instead , we must hone our empathetic skills by asking a question you want to know the answer to. When we ask, we must look the other person in the eye and wait for a reply . The other person will certainly feel that you are genuinely interested , and will answer promptly and will also perhaps ask how you’re doing. The result is you will develop more satisfying relationships with those around you.
In our day-to-day lives we find ourselves in situations that really upset us. The irritant may be close to us or a vendor in market. According to Maurice Jesse Elias, a psychologist who coauthored Educating People to be Emotionally intelligent, we must take time to reflect on why and on how we reacted and then work on concrete ways to stay calm. First we notice our voice goes up when our temper flares. So we should try to drop it from’ out of control’ to ‘upset’ level and ‘absolutely under control’ level. If we do so, we can control ourselves. We can achieve this with practice. The easiest way is to be observant of people around us in different tight spots and their reaction. Certainly, this teaches us invaluable lessons as to how we should be or, shouldn’t be.
So try to be ‘emotionally efficient.
Mind cannot practice not to do; it can only practice what to do.
One object of Concentration
If you learn how to withdraw your attention from all objects of distraction and to place it upon one object of concentration, you too will know how to attract at will whatever you need. Pramhansa Yogananda
God Does Not Reward Or Punish You
God does not reward or punish you. He has given you the power to reward or punish yourselves by the use or misuse of your own reason and will power. If you transgress the laws of health, prosperity, and wisdom you must inevitably suffer from sickness, poverty, and ignorance.
The cultured give happiness wherever they go; the uncultured, whenever they go!
Old age comes with the passage of time. Maturity comes by deep reflection.
Sing the song of the secular to the sruti of the sacred and bring out the melody of life
Melancholy is the language of delusion. Joy is the music of truth.
Each day comes bearing its gifts. Unite the ribbons.
A Reminder From God
I was regretting the past and fearing the future. Suddenly , I heard God speaking. “My name is “I AM’. He paused . I waited. He continued, “When you live in the past with its mistakes and regrets, it is hard for you because I am not there. My name is not “I WAS’.
“When you live in the future with its unknowns and fears, it is hard for you because I am not there. My name is not “I WILL BE’, “But when you live in this moment, it is not hard, because I am here. My name is ‘I AM”.
Money
If money is possessed by man there is a charm
If money is posses by money there is all herm
People worship money not out of servitude but out of gratitude.
They regarded it as Goddess Lakshmi
Quite natural it is
For, money has helped them in so money ways!

Quote from True Religion always Helps
Righteousness that springs from love of God and from the yearning for continuing in His love is indestructible. This is the fountain of true religion , which expresses itself in life as truthfulness, purity, self-control, non-violence, forbearance, compassion, equanimity, detachment, other-regard , straightforwardness, and longing for liberation or enlightenment.
Whoever we may be whatever our situation in life, religion always stand by and sustains us. Not only that, if we pass away before attaining enlightenment, true religion carries over to us in the next life the merits earned by us in this life.
Religion is not eh friend of one life alone; it is our eternal friend, even in life after death.

I drive joy
There was a doctor in Benaras who spent 5 minutes in the morning and evening for mediation on God. Knowing this, his colleagues and friends laughed at him. One day they argued that he was wasting ten precious minutes on something, which he had been misled into believing. The doctor replied, “Well, if God does not exist, I agree that I am wasting ten minutes a day. But, if He exists? I am afraid you are wasting your entire lifetime. I prefer to waste ten minutes rather than a lifetime. Why should you grudge me the 10 minutes joy that I derive from? I am not robbing you of your joy; why should you rob me of mine. He asked. The critics were silenced. –Baba- Chinna Katha
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